Happiness and Success are not Identical

My second closing thought is about happiness. Success — whether measured by who wins the National Spelling Bee, makes it through West Point, or leads the division in annual sales — is not the only thing you care about. Surely, you also want to be happy. And while happiness and success are related, they’re not […]

The Hard Thing Rule

Everyone (including parents) has to do one hard thing You can quit, when the season is over or tuition is done, but not in the middle. YOU get to pick your hard thing, no one picks it for you. In high school, you have to pick something else and stick with it for two years. […]

Work On Your Grit then Your Kid

If you want to bring forth grit in your child, first ask how much passion and perseverance you have for your own life goals. Then ask yourself how likely it is that your approach to parenting encourages your child to emulate you. If the answer to the first question is “a great deal,” and your […]

Searching for Improvement

When you keep searching for ways to change your situation for the better, you stand a chance of finding them. When you stop searching, assuming they can’t be found, you guarantee they won’t. From Grit by Angela Duckworth

Let kids decide their activities

Kids whose parents let them make their own choices about what they like are more likely to develop interests later identified as passion. From Grit by Angela Duckworth

At the Start – have fun

Of course, developing an interest requires time and energy, and yes, some discipline and sacrifice. But at this earliest stage, novices aren’t obsessed with getting better. They’re not thinking years and years into the future. They don’t know what their top-level, life-orienting goal will be. More than anything else, they’re having fun. From Grit by […]

Angela Duckworth on Your Purpose

What I mean by passion is not just that you have something you care about. What I mean is that you care about that same ultimate goal in an abiding, loyal, steady way. You are not capricious. Each day, you wake up thinking of the questions you fell asleep thinking about. You are, in a […]

Get Back on the Treadmill after Discomfort

Staying on the treadmill is one thing, and I do think it’s related to staying true to our commitments even when we’re not comfortable. But getting back on the treadmill the next day, eager to try again, is in my view even more reflective of grit. Because when you don’t come back the next day […]

Talented Students

There’s a vast amount of research on what happens when we believe a student is especially talented. We begin to lavish extra attention on them and hold them to higher expectations. We expect them to excel, and that expectation becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. That should bring into question what we do with our kids and […]

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