Your Identity

When you cling too tightly to one identity, you become brittle. Lose that one thing and you lose yourself.

Stuck on your limits

People get so caught up in the fact that they have limits that they rarely exert the effort required to get close to them.

Motivation is not the key to habits

Conventional wisdom holds that motivation is the key to habit change. Maybe if you really wanted it, you’d actually do it. But the truth is our real motivation is to be lazy and to do whatever is convenient.

Just put the reps in

If you want to master a habit, the key is to start with repetition, not perfection. You don’t need to may out every feature of a new habit. You just need to practice it.

Wrong with the crowd

There is tremendous internal pressure to comply with the norms of the group. The reward of being accepted is often greater than the reward of winning an argument, looking smart, or finding the truth. Most days we’d rather be wrong with the crowd than be right by ourselves.

Culture and Habit Formation

One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where your desired behavior is that normal behavior new habits seem achievable when you see others doing them every day.

Design your environment

Environment design is powerful not only because it influences how we engage with the world but also because we rarely do it. Most people live in a world others have created for them. But you can alter the spaces where you live and work to increase your exposure to positive cues and reduce your exposure […]

New identity requires new evidence

New identities require new evidence. If you keep casting the same votes you’ve always cast, you’re going to get the same results you’ve always had. If nothing changes, nothing is going to change.

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