I picked the kids up at camp today and the speaker for the week talked about 1 Peter 3:9 which says:
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. Bible Gateway
The summary they gave to the parents was that people of faith should be blessing everyone around them with their words and their actions. That they should so awesome that people can't help but be drawn to them to find out what makes them such awesome people.
But having been in the church for 35+ years...that's the opposite of much of what I saw and the reason I don't attend church now.
I watched men in leadership be terrible to the staff they lead and have their abhorrent behaviour justified because they have a "stressful" job as a pastor.
The times I watched a church rally around a dude who was being an asshole to his family while shunning the family, leaving mom stuck with no support and the kids to deal with, are numerous.
The ways I've watched "people of faith" spout thinly veiled hate at the LGBTQ+ community but try and talk about love is appalling. They talk about their "love" for everyone, while removing rights from any group that doesn't look at the bible the same way they do.
That doesn't seem like love to me.
Why do so many Christians miss the "blessing" and "love" part while remember some obscure rule in the Old Testament about who you're allowed to love?