When you realize you are out of sync with your Strengths and your goals, and you have put yourself and your health on the back burner, don’t beat yourself up. Just restart. – From Frustrated to Frickin’ Awesome

It happens to all of us at some point, including me. I don’t have it all together. I may not even be that many steps ahead of you.

In fact, maybe I should be on your email list instead.

At times we will be out of sync with the ideal life we want. We will feel like we’re drowning and there is no edge to the pool.

It’s okay to feel like that. It’s not fun, but it’s okay.

1. Get some support

You can’t go it alone. The myth of the solo business owner is just that a myth. They’ve had mentors and other businesses that helped them.

When I started web development, I got to meet Dale and Dwayne who owned Brave New Code and WP Touch Pro. They moved to products and sent me a bunch of work.

Without them sending me work, you may not be reading my site today because I wouldn’t have survived the first year without that boost of amazing clients from an established agency.

You also need some accountability. Have a weekly mentoring group. Look for someone local to talk to about the struggles you’re having.

Get honest with these groups, because suffering in isolation is only a way to ensure that you suffer longer.

2. Get some exercise

Yes, when you’re drowning you should get out of the office and get some exercise. I’m not saying take up running if you don’t run but go for a walk.

Go for a walk every day for 20 minutes. Walk fast enough that you breathe just a bit heavy. If you can, go for a walk in a space that has lots of green, avoid city streets if possible.

Do it without music and no screens. Clear your head and be intentional about looking at the beauty around you.

To stay focused throughout the day we need a clear head. We need a head full of energy.

Make sure you clear the space in your schedule to recharge your energy during the day.

3. Just start over

I love working in 12 week cycles out of The 12 Week Year1, but not every cycle goes as planned. Some of them can be total disasters.

When that happens, stop and take stock of where you’re at right now. Don’t start a full 12 week cycle again, look at whatever time you have left and the goals you wanted to achieve.

Ask yourself: “Out of all the goals I had, which ONE(s) will yield the biggest result?”

Then: “Out of all the goals I have, which ONE(s) can I get done in the time I have left?”

Now, start to plan out the weeks you have left in your cycle.

None of these ideas are magic. You’ve likely still got a bit of a road to walk until you can break out of the funk you’re in.


Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare. – Grit

Those that win in life have endurance.

Have an awesome day!


PS: If you’re looking to get back on track, check out my 8 Week Business BootCamp.

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