From Seth Godin:

The thing is: 90% of the strawberries in a quart are hidden from view. They’re beneath the top layer. There’s no strategy to tell which quart is better than the other, unless you (erroneously) believe that the top layer is an accurate indicator of what lies below.

Where are you only looking at the top layer in life? The size of your house or the things you give to your kids don’t tell the story of your success or parenting. They both have so much more nuance than that.

Don’t fall in to what the world says you should value because it’s almost all top layer crap.